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5. Внешние критики: мы и они

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154. “Bruno Mars Is Such a Perfectionist That ‘Uptown Funk’ Almost Didn’t Happen,” MTV, November 2, 2016. http://www.mtv.com/news/2950064/bruno-mars-24k-magic- perfectionist/.

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161. Nicole You Jeung Kim et al., “You Must Have a Preference: The Impact of No-Preference Communication on Joint Decision Making,” Journal of Marketing Research 60, no. 1 (2023): 52–71, https://doi.org/10.1177/00222437221107593.

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6. От ярлыков к ценностям

163. Clarissa Ong and Michael Twohig, The Anxious Perfectionist: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Skills to Deal with Anxiety, Stress, and Worry Driven by Perfectionism (Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 2022).

164. Michael Twohig, из разговора с автором, 2.02.2023.

165. S. C. Hayes, K. Strosahl, and K. G. Wilson, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: An Experiential Approach to Behavior Change (New York: Guilford Press, 1999).

166. Clarissa Ong, из разговора с автором, 8.02.2023.

167. Success Index (n.p.: Populace/Gallup, 2019), https://populace.org/research.

7. Наши брошенные корзины

168. “BCC to Host COVID- 19 Vaccine Clinics,” Berkshire Community College, https://www.berkshirecc.edu/news-events/2021/vaccine.php.

169. “WATCH: Yo-Yo Ma Performs at Vaccine Clinic after Receiving Second COVID-19 Shot,” WCVB, March 14, 2021, https://www.wcvb.com/article/watch-yo-yo-ma-performs-at-vaccine-clinic-after-receiving-second-covid-19-shot/35831169.

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